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Shawn Achor, a well-known Harvard lecturer, happiness researcher, and TedX speaker, says we’ve got it all wrong. Typically, the world seems to hold as true the notion that our reality shapes us; what we’ve achieved or have determines our levels of happiness. But, according to Accor, this isn’t true. Rather than our reality shaping us, it’s the lens through which we view our reality that really has an impact on …

I get it. I, too, would love to spare my children adversity, unpleasantness, or failure of any kind. (And, mind you, this statement is coming from a woman whose children are all adults, some with children of their own!) Yet, when I stop and really give these feelings adequate time and contemplation, I must accept the fact that, were I to follow through on these urges, it would be to …

Have you ever experienced one of those things that was just kizmet? It was just meant to be? Walking back to my car after attending a speaking event, I encountered a woman who, as often happens to me, was searching for her car. Hmmm, now where was it that I parked???? I must admit, my first thought upon encountering another female in a fairly dark parking garage was “Thank goodness; …

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Music moves me. It’s able to change my moods from feeling sad to happy, hopeless to hopeful, and totally lost to empowered and ready to set the world on fire. So, it’s little wonder that when I heard the song, You Will be Found, from the Dear Evan Hansen Broadway play, it was like a lightening bolt through my heart. You …

I’m not very good with small talk. I remember watching someone at work who always seemed to be chatting up a storm with anyone and everyone, hoping I’d learn a few tips that I could use myself. Strategies to make it easier to engage myself in conversation with others. And, then, at other times, I find myself able to talk away, with no hesitation involved! What makes some situations so …

I love to do the New York Times crossword puzzle every morning. And I’m getting better at them…yeah, me! But one of the clues in today’s puzzle let me know that my personal and professional worlds are colliding. Actually, they already had; after all, I take myself with me wherever I go, but when the answer to a crossword puzzle clue is AMYGDALA…well, no further proof is necessary. AMYGDALA is …

How often are your conversations focused around the “good” stuff? Doing good deeds formally, or informally, with an organization? Going out of your way to help the less fortunate? Doing something toward your own self-care? Every so often news programs present a feature, or series, that highlight the positives. And that does bring attention to the activity. But, what if we went one step further and combined the desire to …

Happiness has become such a large part of today’s daily conversation that it actually has its own day. Like, literally. And internationally. The International Day of Happiness is scheduled for March 20 and there’s no time like the present to start planning. Organizations are making arrangements, thinking of a multitude of ways to spotlight the day and, at the same time, hoping that one day of happiness turns into many, …

What do thinking that you may be a fraud and practicing mindfulness have in common? More than one might imagine. Explanations first. The Imposter Syndrome, first identified in research by Drs. Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, explains that many people, especially high achieving women, believe their successes have been the result of luck rather than merit. Those identified with this phenomenon often attribute their accomplishments to good fortune, …

Everyone might wish to be happy all the time, but that’s just not realistic. After all, life has a way of throwing us a few curveballs. A relationship that didn’t go the way we planned. Yesterday’s best friend simply…isn’t anymore. Not getting that job offer or expected promotion. Getting a poor response to something that we had worked really hard. The passing of a loved one. These are all things …