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Shawn Achor, a well-known Harvard lecturer, happiness researcher, and TedX speaker, says we’ve got it all wrong. Typically, the world seems to hold as true the notion that our reality shapes us; what we’ve achieved or have determines our levels of happiness. But, according to Accor, this isn’t true. Rather than our reality shaping us, it’s the lens through which we view our reality that really has an impact on …

Have you ever experienced one of those things that was just kizmet? It was just meant to be? Walking back to my car after attending a speaking event, I encountered a woman who, as often happens to me, was searching for her car. Hmmm, now where was it that I parked???? I must admit, my first thought upon encountering another female in a fairly dark parking garage was “Thank goodness; …

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Music moves me. It’s able to change my moods from feeling sad to happy, hopeless to hopeful, and totally lost to empowered and ready to set the world on fire. So, it’s little wonder that when I heard the song, You Will be Found, from the Dear Evan Hansen Broadway play, it was like a lightening bolt through my heart. You …

How often are your conversations focused around the “good” stuff? Doing good deeds formally, or informally, with an organization? Going out of your way to help the less fortunate? Doing something toward your own self-care? Every so often news programs present a feature, or series, that highlight the positives. And that does bring attention to the activity. But, what if we went one step further and combined the desire to …

Happiness has become such a large part of today’s daily conversation that it actually has its own day. Like, literally. And internationally. The International Day of Happiness is scheduled for March 20 and there’s no time like the present to start planning. Organizations are making arrangements, thinking of a multitude of ways to spotlight the day and, at the same time, hoping that one day of happiness turns into many, …

Everyone might wish to be happy all the time, but that’s just not realistic. After all, life has a way of throwing us a few curveballs. A relationship that didn’t go the way we planned. Yesterday’s best friend simply…isn’t anymore. Not getting that job offer or expected promotion. Getting a poor response to something that we had worked really hard. The passing of a loved one. These are all things …

Media messages are often criticized. Especially when considering diverse groups of people such as women, older generations, people of color, those with disabilities, and people with alternative lifestyles, groups are often portrayed in a more stereotypical manner. Yet, sometimes it is possible to find messages that are deserving of positive attention. The movie, Bridesmaids, with Melissa McCarty as the groom’s sister, Megan, and Kristin Wiig as the bride’s long-time friend, …

As the year comes to a close with religious or family celebrations, now is a good time to take stock of the thoughts that continue to whirl through your mind. Are you thinking happy thoughts, or are all of those instances of upset on a constant loop? Do you have strategies in place that will help you reduce your times of frustration, anxiety, or memories of hurt feelings? This used …

A friend who had been ill passed away. Tears, sadness, anger…and, eventually, memories that bring smiles. When we lose a loved one, we experience a flood of thoughts and emotions. But, if we stop to think about why we are experiencing this range of emotions, we realize that the blessing of that relationship will not disappear so quickly; in fact, never. I worked with my friend for many years, but …

Recently I was asked, as a former classroom teacher and principal, what I felt had made the greatest impact on the students with whom I interacted; my response came without hesitation: I let them know they mattered and that I cared. This might be one of the biggest gifts we can give to our students, friends, family and colleagues. In fact, this may be a life-changer when it comes to …