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Have you set your goal? Contrary to the belief that goals are big on the to-do list just at New Year’s, the reality is that setting a goal at any time, along with determining the individual steps that are required to meet it and write it down, will actually help you reach your goal much faster. Just as you might set your gps when starting a drive for a new destination, the …

Mindfulness. Such a huge buzzword these days. Benefits of Mindfulness Dr Dan Siegel says if there were a pill on the market that did everything mindfulness has been proven to do, that pill would be flying off the shelves. Scientifically proven to decrease blood pressure, heart and brain problems, inflammations, emotional reactivity, anxiety, stress, and rumination, it is also proven to improve immune systems, heart rate, longevity, focus and attention, …

We all get upset with other people or situations; this is the norm. So it follows that one’s focus would be less about the upset, itself, and more about our response, how we handle the situation. For myself, I’ve learned that one of the most effective ways to address those unwanted and/or unexpected upsets are to stop and ask myself one of two questions: What else could be true? What …

My mother once said, “We’ve reached the age where we’ve started losing our friends; it’s just horrible to have your circle become smaller and smaller as loved ones pass on.” The loss of a close friend or loved one never makes anyone happy, but is there a better way to respond to the sadness? While it’s true that there will be pain with each loss, no one should stop living …

You send your child to school and presume everything possible will be done on your child’s behalf. He will be taught by the best teachers in the world, be motivated to achieve to his full potential, and will become an engaged, responsible person who will become a contributing member of society. Right? Well, maybe. The truth is that schools can’t do it all. While many teachers and schools are extraordinary, …

The school year ended and students left for the summer. Off to summer camps, special programs, vacations, or summer classes. The options were many. But how many followed the example set by students at a number of colleges and universities? Stonehill College Initiative Stonehill College, a private, co-educational Roman Catholic liberal arts college in Massachusetts, has about 2,400 full-time students. Not a large school, by any means. A college where …

It never fails to amaze me when people don’t like each other simply because they’re different. A different race or religion. A different ethnicity or mode of dress. Even an accent that, when they speak, it lets one know that something in that person’s past was…different. Different Types of What Could Have Been the Same A perfect example occurred when I attended my last meditation retreat. My first retreat experience, which taught …

This week I’ll take time from my daily life to spend three days at a meditation retreat. I’ll be leaving behind my spouse, children and grandchildren, as well as familiar routines that involve what I might be making for dinner or an early wake-up to ensure that I get to my exercise class on time. For a person who tries to consistently practice mindfulness, this will still be a welcome …

A school leader once related the following story when talking about the changing attitudes regarding parents and their ties to their child’s educational experience: When I was little I’d bring home a note from the teacher, hand it to my parent, and my parent would smack me and say, “What did you do?!” Today, a child brings home a note from the teacher, hands it to a parent, the parent …

We all have those times where we find ourselves upset, and that’s when the knee-jerk reactions kick in. But, have you ever taken the time to decide how you will calm yourself to the point that you can offer a thoughtful response instead? Maybe it’s time we all give the idea some thought. The habit of a negative response I remember, as a teacher and then a principal, there were …