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It happened again. I got so mad and was busy blaming others for my upset. It was the lady who messed up the appointment. It was the man who didn’t listen to my directions. It was the lady who hadn’t returned the call. Did these things occur? Yes, they did. And the results were definitely inconveniences. But, at the end of the day, none of these things were such a …

What do a retired teacher, former chemotherapy patient, and empty-nester mom have in common? More than you might think: they’ve all been removed, in some way, from their communities. The retired teacher, after spending years saying hello to the same families, same colleagues, same school support staff, and same administrators, is suddenly afloat. She had looked forward to the time when she would have more time to read, exercise, shop, …

Every so often life seems to beat us down. It feels like challenges are coming at a more rapid pace, disappointments appear more overwhelming, and it feels like we are encountering one setback after another. And that is a perfect time to simply stop…take a deep breath…and get a reality check on life. Are things that bad, or is negativity running away with us? The Brain and Negative Thinking Science …

I’m waiting until I get really upset about something to practice my mindfulness. These words, spoken by one of my clients when first discussing the best time to establish a daily mindfulness practice, could not have been further from the goal. The fact is, just like practicing to ride a bicycle or drive a car, it is an activity that must be done with regularity if positive results are to be …

I used to berate myself any time I perceived myself as being less than perfect: I’d stub my toe and say, “You are such a klutz!” I’d try on an outfit at the store and think, ”No way I could wear that!” How we speak to and about ourselves Speaking these thoughts to myself, I soon learned that these were examples of the negative thinking that are typical patterns for …

What do Shawn Achor and Martin Seligman have in common? They’ve both realized that happiness is a choice; they’ve learn, and are busy teaching others, that there are scientifically proven strategies that can change your personal happiness set point. Shawn Achor, a former Harvard lecturer and author of Before Happiness and The Happiness Advantage, is now CEO of GoodThink, a happiness consulting firm. He has spoken all over the world …

Have you set your goal? Contrary to the belief that goals are big on the to-do list just at New Year’s, the reality is that setting a goal at any time, along with determining the individual steps that are required to meet it and write it down, will actually help you reach your goal much faster. Just as you might set your gps when starting a drive for a new destination, the …

Mindfulness. Such a huge buzzword these days. Benefits of Mindfulness Dr Dan Siegel says if there were a pill on the market that did everything mindfulness has been proven to do, that pill would be flying off the shelves. Scientifically proven to decrease blood pressure, heart and brain problems, inflammations, emotional reactivity, anxiety, stress, and rumination, it is also proven to improve immune systems, heart rate, longevity, focus and attention, …

We all get upset with other people or situations; this is the norm. So it follows that one’s focus would be less about the upset, itself, and more about our response, how we handle the situation. For myself, I’ve learned that one of the most effective ways to address those unwanted and/or unexpected upsets are to stop and ask myself one of two questions: What else could be true? What …

A school leader once related the following story when talking about the changing attitudes regarding parents and their ties to their child’s educational experience: When I was little I’d bring home a note from the teacher, hand it to my parent, and my parent would smack me and say, “What did you do?!” Today, a child brings home a note from the teacher, hands it to a parent, the parent …