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It happened again. I got so mad and was busy blaming others for my upset. It was the lady who messed up the appointment. It was the man who didn’t listen to my directions. It was the lady who hadn’t returned the call. Did these things occur? Yes, they did. And the results were definitely inconveniences. But, at the end of the day, none of these things were such a …

What do a retired teacher, former chemotherapy patient, and empty-nester mom have in common? More than you might think: they’ve all been removed, in some way, from their communities. The retired teacher, after spending years saying hello to the same families, same colleagues, same school support staff, and same administrators, is suddenly afloat. She had looked forward to the time when she would have more time to read, exercise, shop, …

When was the last time you looked at someone else’s life and thought they had it all? As far as you’re concerned, they have a great job, take great vacations, and are always surrounded by a fun group of people. It looks perfect, but did you ever consider what they might not be revealing? Welcome to Johari’s Window. Created in 1955 by American psychologists Joseph Luft and Harrison Ingram, the …

Every so often life seems to beat us down. It feels like challenges are coming at a more rapid pace, disappointments appear more overwhelming, and it feels like we are encountering one setback after another. And that is a perfect time to simply stop…take a deep breath…and get a reality check on life. Are things that bad, or is negativity running away with us? The Brain and Negative Thinking Science …

I’m waiting until I get really upset about something to practice my mindfulness. These words, spoken by one of my clients when first discussing the best time to establish a daily mindfulness practice, could not have been further from the goal. The fact is, just like practicing to ride a bicycle or drive a car, it is an activity that must be done with regularity if positive results are to be …

What do Shawn Achor and Martin Seligman have in common? They’ve both realized that happiness is a choice; they’ve learn, and are busy teaching others, that there are scientifically proven strategies that can change your personal happiness set point. Shawn Achor, a former Harvard lecturer and author of Before Happiness and The Happiness Advantage, is now CEO of GoodThink, a happiness consulting firm. He has spoken all over the world …

Mindfulness. Such a huge buzzword these days. Benefits of Mindfulness Dr Dan Siegel says if there were a pill on the market that did everything mindfulness has been proven to do, that pill would be flying off the shelves. Scientifically proven to decrease blood pressure, heart and brain problems, inflammations, emotional reactivity, anxiety, stress, and rumination, it is also proven to improve immune systems, heart rate, longevity, focus and attention, …

The school year ended and students left for the summer. Off to summer camps, special programs, vacations, or summer classes. The options were many. But how many followed the example set by students at a number of colleges and universities? Stonehill College Initiative Stonehill College, a private, co-educational Roman Catholic liberal arts college in Massachusetts, has about 2,400 full-time students. Not a large school, by any means. A college where …

It never fails to amaze me when people don’t like each other simply because they’re different. A different race or religion. A different ethnicity or mode of dress. Even an accent that, when they speak, it lets one know that something in that person’s past was…different. Different Types of What Could Have Been the Same A perfect example occurred when I attended my last meditation retreat. My first retreat experience, which taught …

This week I’ll take time from my daily life to spend three days at a meditation retreat. I’ll be leaving behind my spouse, children and grandchildren, as well as familiar routines that involve what I might be making for dinner or an early wake-up to ensure that I get to my exercise class on time. For a person who tries to consistently practice mindfulness, this will still be a welcome …