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When was the last time you really lost your temper? Not the “Gee, I’m kind of upset” kind of losing your temper, but the kind when you’re screaming, crying, ranting, or raving. The kind where you think back about what you said and how you acted and are embarrassed beyond words that you let your emotions get so out of control. How did your body feel inside? Was your heart …

Fred Luskin, Ph.D., is the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a senior consultant in health promotion at Stanford University, and a professor at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, as well as an affiliate faculty member of the Greater Good Science Center. I have never met Fred Luskin, yet he has changed my life for the better. Whether via videos, articles, or his books, all of which can be …

As a teacher, I was once asked to choose a student who was not my favorite; the challenge was to focus on that student for the next month. Every time I saw him, I was to offer some type of greeting that included a reference to anything the student found interesting. Suggested topics included pets, sports or other extracurriculars, a vacation, a special interest, or something positive where you witnessed …

When I first married and experienced “in-law” reality, it was an adjustment, I will readily admit. Who were these people asking questions and giving opinions that I was not used to anyone asking or telling except my parents? And, of course, it soon hit me that this was…normal. As my husband’s parents, they were only asking and telling me things they were entirely used to asking and telling their son. …

Every day hundreds of people, if not more, find themselves floundering; their habitual attitudes, reactions, behaviors, and thoughts get in their own way, and people are typically not even aware that they are helping to create or exacerbate the problems they are experiencing. Often, people place blame for what isn’t going well in their lives on other individuals, circumstances they consider to be beyond their own control, or just plain …

The Science of Happiness, a UC Berkley edX distance learning opportunity in which approximately 100,000 people around the world are currently enrolled, enables those in the class to learn about scientific research focusing on topics such as generosity, forgiveness, compassion, and mindfulness. One of the videos presented as a part of the class involved Dr. Philip Zimbardo and the nonprofit organization he founded, The Heroic Imagination Project, that teaches people how …