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I’m waiting until I get really upset about something to practice my mindfulness. These words, spoken by one of my clients when first discussing the best time to establish a daily mindfulness practice, could not have been further from the goal. The fact is, just like practicing to ride a bicycle or drive a car, it is an activity that must be done with regularity if positive results are to be …

I used to berate myself any time I perceived myself as being less than perfect: I’d stub my toe and say, “You are such a klutz!” I’d try on an outfit at the store and think, ”No way I could wear that!” How we speak to and about ourselves Speaking these thoughts to myself, I soon learned that these were examples of the negative thinking that are typical patterns for …

What do Shawn Achor and Martin Seligman have in common? They’ve both realized that happiness is a choice; they’ve learn, and are busy teaching others, that there are scientifically proven strategies that can change your personal happiness set point. Shawn Achor, a former Harvard lecturer and author of Before Happiness and The Happiness Advantage, is now CEO of GoodThink, a happiness consulting firm. He has spoken all over the world …

Mindfulness. Such a huge buzzword these days. Benefits of Mindfulness Dr Dan Siegel says if there were a pill on the market that did everything mindfulness has been proven to do, that pill would be flying off the shelves. Scientifically proven to decrease blood pressure, heart and brain problems, inflammations, emotional reactivity, anxiety, stress, and rumination, it is also proven to improve immune systems, heart rate, longevity, focus and attention, …

We all get upset with other people or situations; this is the norm. So it follows that one’s focus would be less about the upset, itself, and more about our response, how we handle the situation. For myself, I’ve learned that one of the most effective ways to address those unwanted and/or unexpected upsets are to stop and ask myself one of two questions: What else could be true? What …

My mother once said, “We’ve reached the age where we’ve started losing our friends; it’s just horrible to have your circle become smaller and smaller as loved ones pass on.” The loss of a close friend or loved one never makes anyone happy, but is there a better way to respond to the sadness? While it’s true that there will be pain with each loss, no one should stop living …

The school year ended and students left for the summer. Off to summer camps, special programs, vacations, or summer classes. The options were many. But how many followed the example set by students at a number of colleges and universities? Stonehill College Initiative Stonehill College, a private, co-educational Roman Catholic liberal arts college in Massachusetts, has about 2,400 full-time students. Not a large school, by any means. A college where …

It never fails to amaze me when people don’t like each other simply because they’re different. A different race or religion. A different ethnicity or mode of dress. Even an accent that, when they speak, it lets one know that something in that person’s past was…different. Different Types of What Could Have Been the Same A perfect example occurred when I attended my last meditation retreat. My first retreat experience, which taught …

This week I’ll take time from my daily life to spend three days at a meditation retreat. I’ll be leaving behind my spouse, children and grandchildren, as well as familiar routines that involve what I might be making for dinner or an early wake-up to ensure that I get to my exercise class on time. For a person who tries to consistently practice mindfulness, this will still be a welcome …

We all have those times where we find ourselves upset, and that’s when the knee-jerk reactions kick in. But, have you ever taken the time to decide how you will calm yourself to the point that you can offer a thoughtful response instead? Maybe it’s time we all give the idea some thought. The habit of a negative response I remember, as a teacher and then a principal, there were …