Archive

  The calendar year is quickly coming to an end. Thanksgiving and Winter breaks are just around the corner; where did the time go? And what happened to all of the promises you had made to yourself, in earnest, about the strategies you would use to create greater balance between work and home? Or reducing the stress your family has been feeling around your children’s schoolwork, extracurricular activities, and their study …

I’ve typically felt the need to keep my problems to myself. There was so much happening in the lives of others, things that seemed more important, or, at least, seemed more like an emergency to them, and I felt I could just deal; I could handle it; I was going to be fine; whatever was going on with me would be resolved in some way. And when I did feel the …

When was the last time you really lost your temper? Not the “Gee, I’m kind of upset” kind of losing your temper, but the kind when you’re screaming, crying, ranting, or raving. The kind where you think back about what you said and how you acted and are embarrassed beyond words that you let your emotions get so out of control. How did your body feel inside? Was your heart …

Fred Luskin, Ph.D., is the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a senior consultant in health promotion at Stanford University, and a professor at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, as well as an affiliate faculty member of the Greater Good Science Center. I have never met Fred Luskin, yet he has changed my life for the better. Whether via videos, articles, or his books, all of which can be …

As a teacher, I was once asked to choose a student who was not my favorite; the challenge was to focus on that student for the next month. Every time I saw him, I was to offer some type of greeting that included a reference to anything the student found interesting. Suggested topics included pets, sports or other extracurriculars, a vacation, a special interest, or something positive where you witnessed …

When I first married and experienced “in-law” reality, it was an adjustment, I will readily admit. Who were these people asking questions and giving opinions that I was not used to anyone asking or telling except my parents? And, of course, it soon hit me that this was…normal. As my husband’s parents, they were only asking and telling me things they were entirely used to asking and telling their son. …

Every day hundreds of people, if not more, find themselves floundering; their habitual attitudes, reactions, behaviors, and thoughts get in their own way, and people are typically not even aware that they are helping to create or exacerbate the problems they are experiencing. Often, people place blame for what isn’t going well in their lives on other individuals, circumstances they consider to be beyond their own control, or just plain …

Who could have possibly imagined that the 1923 song Who’s Sorry Now would one day name the topic of a behavioral and emotional element that has been the subject of extensive research? Forgiveness…something that we all struggle with at one time or another. Someone does something, or says something. You are hurt beyond words. Embarrassed. Sometimes we want revenge; other times we just want to crawl under a rock and never …

The human brain is a true marvel. With its assistance, we can plan, learn, coordinate, analyze, and apply all the information we receive. At night, while we’re sleeping, our brains can cull information, deleting the non-essentials yet leaving the data we use most often and find more necessary. The brain is also given major responsibility in helping turn repeated behaviors into habits. This is wonderful when one thinks of the …

Is it just me, or does everyone try to find a “meaning” for why and how things happen? My parents both passed away on the 30th of the month; my dad in August, 2007, and my mom in December, 2011. I not only connected the number 30, but also the 7-11. (And I don’t even think I own that company’s stock!) When my dad passed, I was so sad to …