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My children are now adults, some with children of their own, and, I must admit, time passed faster than I had ever imagined it could or would. If given the opportunity to go back and give myself a redo on a few situations, would I? The truth is, I know there are some things I would have done differently had I known then what I know now. But I also …

Our emotions are always with us. Reacting to our thoughts, our encounters and everything around us, often our emotions seem to have a life of their own. When confronted with something we find unpleasant or unkind, we may politely smile, rant and rave, scream and cry, or simply walk away. As Zig Ziglar once said, It’s not what happens to you that matters. It’s how you respond to what happens …

A friend needs a push in the right direction. She wants information, but doesn’t feel comfortable asking. She did, however, share her thoughts with you, and you do the asking for her. She’d love to work on that next project, but feels overshadowed by a co-worker. That’s when you speak up on her behalf, and suggest to the boss that she would be a great addition to the team. She …

So far away, yet right around the corner. It’s only July, yet that’s exactly how it seems when thinking about the upcoming school year. The summer might provide a time for some rest and relaxation, but its also a time to make plans. And those plans are what might be the determining factor for whether you’re going to have a relatively calm school year, or feel like you have to …

I grew up in Louisville, Kentucky; when I told my parents I wanted to go to college in Austin, Texas, my mother, in true form, pulled out the encyclopedia and showed me the map of the United States. Susie! Do you see how many inches Austin, Texas, is away from here?! My, how times have changed! Not only did my parents survive the move away from hard-copy encyclopedias to the …

Stress used to be one of the feelings that I liked to avoid. It kept me from sleeping, seemed to lead to multiple extensions of the same worry, and, in plain words, just made me anxious. And then I learned it was better not to avoid stress, but to look at it as an opportunity for personal growth. Kelly McGonigal, a Stanford psychologist, is just one of the many researchers …

  There is so much mindfulness meditation can teach us: how to be in touch with our thoughts and feelings; how our thoughts and feelings impact our bodies and actions; strategies to find greater focus and decrease anxiety and stress. Yet, one of the areas I’ve found to be the most beneficial has been the journey of learning along the way. This has not been a simple “open the book …

Into the bank I go. It’s not a branch I visit very often; in fact, the last time was a month ago. I walked up to the cashier and recognized her; she recognized me, too, and we broke into happy banter about nothing in particular. I call a phone number to check on the progress of paperwork that has been going around in circles for more than two months. I …

I’ve typically felt the need to keep my problems to myself. There was so much happening in the lives of others, things that seemed more important, or, at least, seemed more like an emergency to them, and I felt I could just deal; I could handle it; I was going to be fine; whatever was going on with me would be resolved in some way. And when I did feel the …

Fred Luskin, Ph.D., is the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a senior consultant in health promotion at Stanford University, and a professor at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, as well as an affiliate faculty member of the Greater Good Science Center. I have never met Fred Luskin, yet he has changed my life for the better. Whether via videos, articles, or his books, all of which can be …