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So far away, yet right around the corner. It’s only July, yet that’s exactly how it seems when thinking about the upcoming school year. The summer might provide a time for some rest and relaxation, but its also a time to make plans. And those plans are what might be the determining factor for whether you’re going to have a relatively calm school year, or feel like you have to …

I grew up in Louisville, Kentucky; when I told my parents I wanted to go to college in Austin, Texas, my mother, in true form, pulled out the encyclopedia and showed me the map of the United States. Susie! Do you see how many inches Austin, Texas, is away from here?! My, how times have changed! Not only did my parents survive the move away from hard-copy encyclopedias to the …

Stress used to be one of the feelings that I liked to avoid. It kept me from sleeping, seemed to lead to multiple extensions of the same worry, and, in plain words, just made me anxious. And then I learned it was better not to avoid stress, but to look at it as an opportunity for personal growth. Kelly McGonigal, a Stanford psychologist, is just one of the many researchers …

  There is so much mindfulness meditation can teach us: how to be in touch with our thoughts and feelings; how our thoughts and feelings impact our bodies and actions; strategies to find greater focus and decrease anxiety and stress. Yet, one of the areas I’ve found to be the most beneficial has been the journey of learning along the way. This has not been a simple “open the book …

Into the bank I go. It’s not a branch I visit very often; in fact, the last time was a month ago. I walked up to the cashier and recognized her; she recognized me, too, and we broke into happy banter about nothing in particular. I call a phone number to check on the progress of paperwork that has been going around in circles for more than two months. I …

I’ve typically felt the need to keep my problems to myself. There was so much happening in the lives of others, things that seemed more important, or, at least, seemed more like an emergency to them, and I felt I could just deal; I could handle it; I was going to be fine; whatever was going on with me would be resolved in some way. And when I did feel the …

Fred Luskin, Ph.D., is the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a senior consultant in health promotion at Stanford University, and a professor at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, as well as an affiliate faculty member of the Greater Good Science Center. I have never met Fred Luskin, yet he has changed my life for the better. Whether via videos, articles, or his books, all of which can be …

You’re successful in your business. You’re held in high regard by others as intelligent, capable, and a force with whom to be reckoned. Yet, in the middle of the night or during the day, the thought comes to you: What if they realize I’m a fake? What if they realize I’m not that (you fill in the blank…smart, talented, capable, witty, whatever). You are one of the many people who …

The human brain is a true marvel. With its assistance, we can plan, learn, coordinate, analyze, and apply all the information we receive. At night, while we’re sleeping, our brains can cull information, deleting the non-essentials yet leaving the data we use most often and find more necessary. The brain is also given major responsibility in helping turn repeated behaviors into habits. This is wonderful when one thinks of the …

You feel lonely or left out. You want to make a change, but don’t know how to do it. You want to reach out and expand your social circle, but are worried about the comments from the people you’re typically around, and can’t begin to imagine how to get started anyway. Consider this. When you take a car trip, you know where you want to go or you follow some …