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When was the last time you looked at someone else’s life and thought they had it all? As far as you’re concerned, they have a great job, take great vacations, and are always surrounded by a fun group of people. It looks perfect, but did you ever consider what they might not be revealing? Welcome to Johari’s Window. Created in 1955 by American psychologists Joseph Luft and Harrison Ingram, the …

Every so often life seems to beat us down. It feels like challenges are coming at a more rapid pace, disappointments appear more overwhelming, and it feels like we are encountering one setback after another. And that is a perfect time to simply stop…take a deep breath…and get a reality check on life. Are things that bad, or is negativity running away with us? The Brain and Negative Thinking Science …

I’m waiting until I get really upset about something to practice my mindfulness. These words, spoken by one of my clients when first discussing the best time to establish a daily mindfulness practice, could not have been further from the goal. The fact is, just like practicing to ride a bicycle or drive a car, it is an activity that must be done with regularity if positive results are to be …

What do Shawn Achor and Martin Seligman have in common? They’ve both realized that happiness is a choice; they’ve learn, and are busy teaching others, that there are scientifically proven strategies that can change your personal happiness set point. Shawn Achor, a former Harvard lecturer and author of Before Happiness and The Happiness Advantage, is now CEO of GoodThink, a happiness consulting firm. He has spoken all over the world …

Mindfulness. Such a huge buzzword these days. Benefits of Mindfulness Dr Dan Siegel says if there were a pill on the market that did everything mindfulness has been proven to do, that pill would be flying off the shelves. Scientifically proven to decrease blood pressure, heart and brain problems, inflammations, emotional reactivity, anxiety, stress, and rumination, it is also proven to improve immune systems, heart rate, longevity, focus and attention, …

We all get upset with other people or situations; this is the norm. So it follows that one’s focus would be less about the upset, itself, and more about our response, how we handle the situation. For myself, I’ve learned that one of the most effective ways to address those unwanted and/or unexpected upsets are to stop and ask myself one of two questions: What else could be true? What …

You send your child to school and presume everything possible will be done on your child’s behalf. He will be taught by the best teachers in the world, be motivated to achieve to his full potential, and will become an engaged, responsible person who will become a contributing member of society. Right? Well, maybe. The truth is that schools can’t do it all. While many teachers and schools are extraordinary, …

It never fails to amaze me when people don’t like each other simply because they’re different. A different race or religion. A different ethnicity or mode of dress. Even an accent that, when they speak, it lets one know that something in that person’s past was…different. Different Types of What Could Have Been the Same A perfect example occurred when I attended my last meditation retreat. My first retreat experience, which taught …

This week I’ll take time from my daily life to spend three days at a meditation retreat. I’ll be leaving behind my spouse, children and grandchildren, as well as familiar routines that involve what I might be making for dinner or an early wake-up to ensure that I get to my exercise class on time. For a person who tries to consistently practice mindfulness, this will still be a welcome …

A school leader once related the following story when talking about the changing attitudes regarding parents and their ties to their child’s educational experience: When I was little I’d bring home a note from the teacher, hand it to my parent, and my parent would smack me and say, “What did you do?!” Today, a child brings home a note from the teacher, hands it to a parent, the parent …