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Into the bank I go. It’s not a branch I visit very often; in fact, the last time was a month ago. I walked up to the cashier and recognized her; she recognized me, too, and we broke into happy banter about nothing in particular. I call a phone number to check on the progress of paperwork that has been going around in circles for more than two months. I …

  The calendar year is quickly coming to an end. Thanksgiving and Winter breaks are just around the corner; where did the time go? And what happened to all of the promises you had made to yourself, in earnest, about the strategies you would use to create greater balance between work and home? Or reducing the stress your family has been feeling around your children’s schoolwork, extracurricular activities, and their study …

I’ve typically felt the need to keep my problems to myself. There was so much happening in the lives of others, things that seemed more important, or, at least, seemed more like an emergency to them, and I felt I could just deal; I could handle it; I was going to be fine; whatever was going on with me would be resolved in some way. And when I did feel the …

When was the last time you really lost your temper? Not the “Gee, I’m kind of upset” kind of losing your temper, but the kind when you’re screaming, crying, ranting, or raving. The kind where you think back about what you said and how you acted and are embarrassed beyond words that you let your emotions get so out of control. How did your body feel inside? Was your heart …

When I first married and experienced “in-law” reality, it was an adjustment, I will readily admit. Who were these people asking questions and giving opinions that I was not used to anyone asking or telling except my parents? And, of course, it soon hit me that this was…normal. As my husband’s parents, they were only asking and telling me things they were entirely used to asking and telling their son. …

Every day hundreds of people, if not more, find themselves floundering; their habitual attitudes, reactions, behaviors, and thoughts get in their own way, and people are typically not even aware that they are helping to create or exacerbate the problems they are experiencing. Often, people place blame for what isn’t going well in their lives on other individuals, circumstances they consider to be beyond their own control, or just plain …

  We all live fast-paced lives and, sometimes, that leads us to a frantic existence, running from one task to another without giving ourselves time to think. We may take care of agenda items that float to the top of our “must do” lists, but are the tasks occupying that spot on the list really the most important? Have you ever taken the time to evaluate the real importance of …

So much to do, and so little time to do it. That’s a saying that held true for many of my life experiences until I decided to replace it with a new one: Begin with the end in mind! Knowing where I’m headed is always helpful. I knew this when I drove a car; I cannot begin to imagine why I didn’t apply the lesson to other parts of my …

The Science of Happiness, a UC Berkley edX distance learning opportunity in which approximately 100,000 people around the world are currently enrolled, enables those in the class to learn about scientific research focusing on topics such as generosity, forgiveness, compassion, and mindfulness. One of the videos presented as a part of the class involved Dr. Philip Zimbardo and the nonprofit organization he founded, The Heroic Imagination Project, that teaches people how …

Who could have possibly imagined that the 1923 song Who’s Sorry Now would one day name the topic of a behavioral and emotional element that has been the subject of extensive research? Forgiveness…something that we all struggle with at one time or another. Someone does something, or says something. You are hurt beyond words. Embarrassed. Sometimes we want revenge; other times we just want to crawl under a rock and never …