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I am not a jock. A bad back was the reason my doctor mandated my withdrawal from physical education classes beginning in the seventh grade, so I didn’t have that high school experience of team or individual sports. As an adult, I have participated in one type of exercise after another, but, again, I show up and kind of do my best; still, it’s not exactly my thing. So, why …

While the holidays can allow much time for fun and adventure, it is also a time that many squander by the spiraling of negative thinking. People start ruminating about what they had meant to accomplish during the year, whom will be missed during special gatherings, or what hadn’t gone exactly as they had imagined. Rather than letting yourself become involved in unconstructive “yapping” of your brain, it might be a …

I used to berate myself any time I perceived myself as being less than perfect: I’d stub my toe and say, “You are such a klutz!” I’d try on an outfit at the store and think, ”No way I could wear that!” How we speak to and about ourselves Speaking these thoughts to myself, I soon learned that these were examples of the negative thinking that are typical patterns for …

The Inauguration has taken place and, I don’t know about you, but I have noticed a huge number of “start-up” organizations that have decided to focus on making positive steps to ensure that our world moves in an upbeat direction with changes aplenty. Not that this is a new idea. If you do a Google Search on the phrase: “don’t complain get involved”, you will find links to religious and …

As the year comes to a close with religious or family celebrations, now is a good time to take stock of the thoughts that continue to whirl through your mind. Are you thinking happy thoughts, or are all of those instances of upset on a constant loop? Do you have strategies in place that will help you reduce your times of frustration, anxiety, or memories of hurt feelings? This used …

Another family weekend, but this time with my husband’s siblings and spouses: Lots of stories from years gone by Catching up on other family members and former high school friends Too much food This special time leads me to wonder: how many people don’t get together with siblings because of disagreements and stresses from over the years? When you’re growing up all siblings have the typical issues: Borrowing vs just …

After three days at the International Positive Education Festival, attendees could not help but to feel renewed. First, Angela Duckworth, founder and scientific director of the Character Lab, spoke about grit being a greater predictor of success and well-being than IQ (“talent counts; effort counts twice”). Later that day, Martin Seligman, known as the Father of Positive Psychology, spoke about the history of the movement and the research revealing its …

Pop artist Meghan Trainor gives me hope. As a songwriter and singer, she has chosen to immerse herself with songs and lyrics that reflect a positive attitude, acceptance of oneself, and a spirit of hopefulness. Never do I associate her with a sense of hopelessness, or a willingness to accept the status quo, especially when she knows, almost instinctively, that we can expect more of ourselves and one another. We …

In the summer of 2014 I visited Plum Village in France, founded by Thich Nhat Hanh, a spiritual leader, poet, and peace activist known throughout the world for his teachings and writings on mindfulness and peace. During my week there, I was fortunate in that I was able to hear this inspiring man speak on a variety of subjects, one of which still provides strength to me as family holidays …

The school year is almost over and, before memories dim, try looking back at the academic year with an objective eye; how did the year evolve for you and your children? Did your child use the best study skills, or does he even know them? Did your child’s teacher go out of the way to establish a positive relationship with both you and your child? Was there a team approach …