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It happened again. I got so mad and was busy blaming others for my upset. It was the lady who messed up the appointment. It was the man who didn’t listen to my directions. It was the lady who hadn’t returned the call. Did these things occur? Yes, they did. And the results were definitely inconveniences. But, at the end of the day, none of these things were such a …

We all get upset with other people or situations; this is the norm. So it follows that one’s focus would be less about the upset, itself, and more about our response, how we handle the situation. For myself, I’ve learned that one of the most effective ways to address those unwanted and/or unexpected upsets are to stop and ask myself one of two questions: What else could be true? What …

The end-of-the-school-year brings varying thoughts to mind for different student populations; some are relieved to have a break from academic rigors and associated expectations while others look forward to family vacations, camps or any number of specialized activities. However, no students look forward to experiencing the difficulties associated with what isn’t available when summer vacation arrives. In-School Assistance for Students The Dallas Independent School District (Dallas ISD) may or may …

Have you ever experienced one of those things that was just kizmet? It was just meant to be? Walking back to my car after attending a speaking event, I encountered a woman who, as often happens to me, was searching for her car. Hmmm, now where was it that I parked???? I must admit, my first thought upon encountering another female in a fairly dark parking garage was “Thank goodness; …

I’m not very good with small talk. I remember watching someone at work who always seemed to be chatting up a storm with anyone and everyone, hoping I’d learn a few tips that I could use myself. Strategies to make it easier to engage myself in conversation with others. And, then, at other times, I find myself able to talk away, with no hesitation involved! What makes some situations so …

What do thinking that you may be a fraud and practicing mindfulness have in common? More than one might imagine. Explanations first. The Imposter Syndrome, first identified in research by Drs. Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, explains that many people, especially high achieving women, believe their successes have been the result of luck rather than merit. Those identified with this phenomenon often attribute their accomplishments to good fortune, …

Everyone might wish to be happy all the time, but that’s just not realistic. After all, life has a way of throwing us a few curveballs. A relationship that didn’t go the way we planned. Yesterday’s best friend simply…isn’t anymore. Not getting that job offer or expected promotion. Getting a poor response to something that we had worked really hard. The passing of a loved one. These are all things …

If you’re so mindful, why do you get upset? This is a question I often hear. Not because I’m always upset; there are many times that I feel calm…happy…relaxed…or just plain satisfied for this to be true. But, still, this is a question that seems to pop out of others’ mouths when I begin to show displeasure or agitation. This reaction to the emotional displays of those who practice mindfulness …

Mindfulness is a journey. I cannot begin to count the number of times I have heard this statement. Yet, hearing educator, child psychiatrist, and founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center Dr Dan Siegel speak about the science of meditation brings even more knowledge and understanding to the subject. Siegel talks about how mindfulness helps us regulate negative emotions and put the breaks on feelings such as fear, anger, hurt or shame. And how mindfulness …

Keep your nose to the grindstone. How many times have we all heard this idiom, along with the explanation that we should continue to work hard to achieve the goals we have set for ourselves? However, this saying is actually not the attitude to cultivate as this new school year, or even the new job, begins. It’s not that performing to the best of one’s ability should be avoided; it’s …