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I’m not very good with small talk. I remember watching someone at work who always seemed to be chatting up a storm with anyone and everyone, hoping I’d learn a few tips that I could use myself. Strategies to make it easier to engage myself in conversation with others. And, then, at other times, I find myself able to talk away, with no hesitation involved! What makes some situations so …

What do thinking that you may be a fraud and practicing mindfulness have in common? More than one might imagine. Explanations first. The Imposter Syndrome, first identified in research by Drs. Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, explains that many people, especially high achieving women, believe their successes have been the result of luck rather than merit. Those identified with this phenomenon often attribute their accomplishments to good fortune, …

Everyone might wish to be happy all the time, but that’s just not realistic. After all, life has a way of throwing us a few curveballs. A relationship that didn’t go the way we planned. Yesterday’s best friend simply…isn’t anymore. Not getting that job offer or expected promotion. Getting a poor response to something that we had worked really hard. The passing of a loved one. These are all things …

If you’re so mindful, why do you get upset? This is a question I often hear. Not because I’m always upset; there are many times that I feel calm…happy…relaxed…or just plain satisfied for this to be true. But, still, this is a question that seems to pop out of others’ mouths when I begin to show displeasure or agitation. This reaction to the emotional displays of those who practice mindfulness …

Mindfulness is a journey. I cannot begin to count the number of times I have heard this statement. Yet, hearing educator, child psychiatrist, and founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center Dr Dan Siegel speak about the science of meditation brings even more knowledge and understanding to the subject. Siegel talks about how mindfulness helps us regulate negative emotions and put the breaks on feelings such as fear, anger, hurt or shame. And how mindfulness …

Keep your nose to the grindstone. How many times have we all heard this idiom, along with the explanation that we should continue to work hard to achieve the goals we have set for ourselves? However, this saying is actually not the attitude to cultivate as this new school year, or even the new job, begins. It’s not that performing to the best of one’s ability should be avoided; it’s …